Perfect Cuckoo Land

Continuing with one of my previous topics about thinking, I have recently come up with this tweet by Psychology Today, basically asking me directly in the face, “Are YOU a perfectionist?” Truth to be told, I have never considered myself one, because there are always SO MANY loose ends I leave no matter what I would do. Not to mention that I have always felt that I’m always lacking some 2% in all my endeavors. But here I began thinking, maybe that’s exactly WHY some of the people around call me a perfectionist?

So I went and read that article about perfectionism where Peg O’Connor, Ph.D. argues that there are at least four forms of perfectionism, and all of them are based on self-deception. Ha, here I thought, that sounds familiar, although I wouldn’t say I go as far as “harboring huge resentment directed at others” or I am “making the judgment that” I am “a moral failure.” Nevertheless, the first type of perfectionism is indicated as procrastination.

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Oooooh~ here everyone would have a deep sigh, I suppose. I mean, who doesn’t procrastinate, right? Here, I thought that the procrastination and perfectionism would be related in a way that a person procrastinates because she knows she would still be able to hand in or submit something at short notice, because one is just that awesome and doing one’s job. Alas, in the article, Peg O’Connor says that when perfectionism is associated with procrastination, it means polished and re-polishing something you have already made, without giving any actual value to your draft. Yeah, I guess I was a little bit off on this one. Continue reading

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Thought Kills

I have always had this idea that if you think about it, you think actually talk yourself into getting ill and what not. It’s sometimes funny how you need an actual scientific proof sometimes to make people believe that something logical and common is true. Well, guess what, David Robson at BBC says that it’s the real deal. noceboEver thought why it sometimes feels that some people seemed to be cursed and they can’t escape the sad end? Well, personally, I don’t believe in such thing as superstitions, but perhaps they have brought it upon themselves for actually BELIEVING in it.

These negative consequences caused by a strong belief alone are called the “nocebo effect,” and it can result in a number of symptoms, for example, dizziness, vomiting, headaches, and sometimes even death! Have you ever been scared or worried sick to the point it resulted in some physical symptoms? I have. I’m a bit of a worrying type, and back when I was little, I would worry myself sick to the point I would have stomach aches. I couldn’t eat. My symptom of over thinking is the loss of the appetite. What’s yours? I’m pretty sure almost all of us have something behind our sleeves, but this kind of “nocebo jinx” could get super serious if people take it too far. Continue reading