Continuing with one of my previous topics about thinking, I have recently come up with this tweet by Psychology Today, basically asking me directly in the face, “Are YOU a perfectionist?” Truth to be told, I have never considered myself one, because there are always SO MANY loose ends I leave no matter what I would do. Not to mention that I have always felt that I’m always lacking some 2% in all my endeavors. But here I began thinking, maybe that’s exactly WHY some of the people around call me a perfectionist?
So I went and read that article about perfectionism where Peg O’Connor, Ph.D. argues that there are at least four forms of perfectionism, and all of them are based on self-deception. Ha, here I thought, that sounds familiar, although I wouldn’t say I go as far as “harboring huge resentment directed at others” or I am “making the judgment that” I am “a moral failure.” Nevertheless, the first type of perfectionism is indicated as procrastination.
Oooooh~ here everyone would have a deep sigh, I suppose. I mean, who doesn’t procrastinate, right? Here, I thought that the procrastination and perfectionism would be related in a way that a person procrastinates because she knows she would still be able to hand in or submit something at short notice, because one is just that awesome and doing one’s job. Alas, in the article, Peg O’Connor says that when perfectionism is associated with procrastination, it means polished and re-polishing something you have already made, without giving any actual value to your draft. Yeah, I guess I was a little bit off on this one.
Then there are other types of perfectionism, like over-estimation of potential abilities, over-estimation of potential abilities, and over-estimation of how much a person controls the world. I don’t see the need of retelling the entire article here, but I think the point is that perfectionism is related to inability to assess properly your own abilities and the world around you. Consequently, this leads to self-deception and the overall misery.
After reading that article, I came to a realization that I’m not that bad off yet. On the other hand, I wish there was some article on how to be practical and assess your own abilities and capabilities with a dose of common sense, because I sometimes get the idea that people often travel into their Cloud cuckoo land instead of taking in everything with a sober head.